Those
with complex chronic illness know; after being tossed around the
medical system, we end up somewhat traumatized. Appointments become
scary things. We worry about the outcome. We worry about whether our
doctor will be able to help or not. We worry that our doctor will give
up on us.
And
sometimes, our fears turn into reality. Today I was refused a treatment
I’ve been getting that allowed me to walk normally again. Horrified?
Devastated? Shocked? There is no perfect word to describe my reaction to
this event in my life. I had been given a part of my life back with
this treatment, and it was now being taken away.
Unfortunately,
with more people than not, appointments gone wrong is a common event.
Life with chronic illness really is a rollercoaster, as you get shuffled
around to different specialists, offered different medications and
suffering side effects, progression of disease.
I
tend to be a very emotional person. When something goes so wrong, I get
extremely upset. So although I can’t follow through all the time, I’ve
found some ways to cope with bad news or a bad appointment.
1-
This is the biggest and most effective one for me; making a plan to
move forward. Starting to think of what actions I can take next to
remedy whatever has gone wrong. Do I need to see a different doctor? Do I
need to take a different approach? What is the next step? Having that
plan and that next step has a calming effect on me.
2-
Lean on your support system. Whether that be at home or online, don’t
keep it to yourself. Think about who in your circle would most closely
understand what is happening to you. If they are someone you feel
comfortable talking to, they will usually be more than willing to listen
and be your shoulder to lean on. Because you can’t do this alone.
Here’s a quote I relate to this and enjoy: “You are not a burden. You
HAVE a burden, which by definition is too heavy to carry on your own.”
3-
Have a list of things that make you feel good prepared. Whether that be
taking a hot bath, some good old retail therapy, eating some ice cream,
or binge watching your favorite show. Allow yourself to do these things
while you heal.
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